and what we really need then we are not offering a truly honest version of ourselves,
and the love we offer will be tainted by that dishonesty.

Funny, isn't it? how we hold on to whatever our insides are telling us while, at the same time,

we are reaching out, wanting to not believe ourselves.

Bottom line is we have to believe in ourselves and that we are worthy of love,
before we can accept the love another offers.
We can hope and pray that he or she sees something in us that we aren't sure is there,
but until we experience belief within ourselves love coming from the outside
(from another person) will never be enough to satisfy our need to be loved.
The problem is when we don't believe ourselves worthy than we are always asking ourselves:
why does he/she love me?
that often leads to: what does he/she want? or what does that mean?
Asking for proof is the same as calling the other person a liar.
Nothing hurts the human heart more, or does more damage to a relationship,
than doubt that is expressed as accusations.
That's why knowing ourselves and the condition of our hearts is so important,
because when we start asking the other person those questions
its because our hearts are searching for faith..
and neither their answers, nor their actions, will satisfy our hearts, because faith comes from inside, not outside, ourselves.